"Hold my hand, I am afraid; please pray for me, when I am away." Comfort the girl; help her understand: that no memory, no matter how sad, and no violence, no matter how bad, can darken the heart or tear it apart. "Take my hand when you are scared and I will pray if you go back out there." Comfort the man; help him understand: that no floating sheet, no matter how haunting, and no secret, no matter how nasty can poison your voice or keep you from joy.